CNN television personality, Chris Cuomo recently created a great stir with his vulgarity filled rant in which he threatened a man who called him Fredo. There were calls for his firing or resignation and some who came to his defense, including Sean Hannity. To his credit, Chris did come out and apologize for his behavior admitting that he should have been the better man.
I have not seen one commentator speak to the issue of how he represented himself as a father and husband in front of his nine year old daughter. Having six children myself, one of whom is a nine year old girl, I can certainly understand the embarrassment of being insulted in front of our wife and children. I believe we have all faced that issue at some point.
For many of us our instinct is to stand toe to toe with the perpetrator. From watching the video there appears to be no real threat to his family, only damage to his ego. Had the been a threat to his family’s safety he should have either quickly exited or taken the man down with full force. This begs the question: Why react with such vulgarity and vitriol? Was this the proper thing to do in front of his nine year old and wife? Based on what we have seen in the video so far, there is no excuse as a dad to behave this way in front of his wife and daughter.
The message he sends to his daughter in this altercation this is what “masculinity” looks like. For his child this is a sad statement on masculinity and fatherhood.
As a Christian father, or any father for that matter, what could he have done? We have the perfect example of masculine Christianity in Christ. What did He do when insulted? Did He threaten to do physical harm to those that insulted and cursed Him? No, he gave His life for them on the cross. Are we not to be Christ like for our children?
How could Chris have handled this differently? First, he could have easily laughed it off and walked away. Second, he could have turned to his daughter and charitably stated, “There are people in this world that don’t like me for my views. We should still be kind and take the high road. Let’s pray for him tonight when we do our evening prayers.” Or finally, he could have walked over, shook the man’s hand, introduce himself and proven the man’s opinion wrong. Any one of these three alternatives his daughter would have reflected on for years to come with pride. Instead, she will now have a picture of her father’s vulgarity etched in her brain forever.
Chris, I hope you have had a conversation with your daughter and wife apologizing for your over reaction and will work to erase that memory from her head.
JMJ, pray for us!
God is good,